Release & Letting Go
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Making the decision to finally leave Instagram after posting content consistently for years took me a while to get to. I’ve always been active on social media since I practically had access to it in middle school. I enjoyed being able to create my own profile, customize it, and connect with my friends and find other people that were interested in the same things I was. I realize now what I was yearning for in my life was community. My own group of peers I could be friends with and connect with on multiple levels. Community is everywhere, anywhere you build it and want it to be. Building bonds in real life by being present with the right people showed me my community. I’ve found some really dope people online that have become my favorite people in real life. As an Aquarius 7H with Uranus inside, I always knew my best relationships would begin online however the most important part is bringing what I love to my reality. I never needed Instagram or social media really to meet interesting people. People naturally come towards you when you carry magnetic energy and such a bright personality like my own. Over the years I realized being on that platform in particular wouldn’t be safe for my growth as there is a lot of negative, hateful energy towards success or vulnerability. Too many blog pages and too many comments. I created my Instagram as a teen to make memes and stan my favorite artists at the time, that’s really it. Starting my business in 2020 as an adult and posting astrology related content became fun. At some point, having to push out content on a schedule was not as enjoyable as when I was younger and just playing. It became very time consuming in addition to my studies. I kept putting pressure on myself to be in constant creation so I could have content to post regularly when as a creative, that is not at all healthy or how everyone’s work ethic is meant to be. Last September, I decided to deactivate my personal page and keep my business running. The fake pages stealing my content and posing as me began this year and only made things worse. To this day I still do not know who was behind the fake pages, but I cannot stress myself out any longer trying to find out. My final decision became clearer and clearer. As I was getting more clients and bookings, I was having to deal with being notified by multiple people every time a fake page is made and it became too much to deal with. As time went on, I also realized how silly and unnecessary it would be for me to continue to deal with it. I knew exactly what needed to be done. So I made it stop by releasing Instagram and using the platform I already have created for myself and protecting my energy and work, by uploading it exclusively here. My time off of Instagram has since helped my mental health soar by allowing me to build genuine connections in real life, protect my business, content, and get back to enjoying creating blog posts and useful, knowledgeable content for the collective. I do support and encourage anyone who likes to record content and upload it consistently to use Instagram and social media sites alike to promote what you’re doing. Being in front of the camera, taking pictures, recording myself, etc. is just not me and it never has been. I am inspired by the platform people are able to build off of posting on Instagram however everything is not for everybody and Instagram is something I’ve outgrown, but that's okay I’ll always cruise comfortably in my own lane. I hope this choice of mine motivates you to rid your life of what no longer belongs there.
Sugar’s Mantra
Repeat these words to yourself out loud, however many times needed.
“I have the power to release. I let go of what I’ve outgrown & what no longer compliments my life.”
Discernment
It is important in life to be conscious enough to recognize when we’ve outgrown situations, people, environments, lifestyles, habits, behaviors, thoughts, feelings, material items, etc. When it is changing who you are, depleting your energy, becoming one sided, or puts you in any type of danger or trouble it’s time to go. You have to know what's safe and acceptable in your life otherwise you will be passive and accept whatever enters. This is why you cannot let others make you feel bad about your decision once you’ve made it either. Discernment is a very key component in protecting yourself. Sometimes you can see something that others cannot see so always do what you know is in your best interest. Your life is your decision and no one is owed an explanation period. While others may not agree with all of your choices, it’s important that you still feel supported and have chosen a circle that uplifts you through it all. Discernment promotes self awareness because when you know what you will not tolerate, you’re able to advocate for yourself.
Detachment
Detachment is easier said than done as everything, person we interact or engage with on any level, we form a bond and attachment to. This doesn’t mean that it can’t happen though. As hurtful as it may be, removing yourself can save you much more in the end. Don’t feel obligated to keep the story alive by keep discussing what you’ve chosen to leave continuously others. Release it and let it go means be done with it for good. Calmly remind others that you have released the situation & its best to not bring it up again if need be. Detachment is healthy to learn as in this life we are here to simply experience. We may own things and the people in our lives may hold a title, however we must remain present yet attached to nothing. Life is ever changing and circumstances can change in the blink of an eye. Practicing detachment is a way of acknowledging possible reality and remaining open to it. If you ever need assistance with getting started on cutting something out of your life, check out our Cord Cutting Ritual.
Release Rituals
Choose whichever ritual you’ll find most helpful or feel free to create your own. You’re allowed closure and to grief the ending however you want to.
Cord cutting ritual- useful for removing your energy from the connection shared with another person. Use this method after you’re sure you no longer want this person in your life for good. Our ritual is so straightforward and makes it easier to sever a bond you no longer want to nurture or blossom.
Burning method- writing down what you’re letting go of on a piece of paper and burning it. This can also work if you write what you’re releasing on an object that's relevant to what you’re releasing. This is helpful if letting go of a habit, material item, or pattern you recognize within yourself. The papers are your final words as you let this go and embrace the change that comes with it. Writing it all out is a great way to reflect and process. Watching it burn makes it being banished from your life feel more permanent and real . Also the objects that carry the most energy you may want to discard.
Donate- if a particular object doesn’t carry any negative energy and you just simply want to release it to make space for something new or you feel it would benefit if someone else were able to use it, feel free to donate accepted items at nearby charities or directly to people in need. Make sure you wash your items thoroughly and cleanse them with sage before sending them off.
Pass it on- if the return period has expired on something, but you think it’s something useful that can’t be donated, give it to someone you know that can make use of it. It’s all about reducing waste and not feeling “stuck” with what we know we no longer need.
Release- commonly done during ceremonies to honor someone. Release balloons or something at sea to honor the chapter in your life closing and begin your healing.
Emotional Regulation
If you consider yourself an empath, it’s natural to feel guilty or take on other people’s feelings about your decision. Allow yourself to let it go. It’s not fair to you or your responsibility to take on your emotions in addition to others. When you start to feel overwhelmed, ask yourself “What emotions are mine?”.
Honestly journaling is what keeps me sane. I’m such an advocate for writing and journaling because it's common for a reason, it works for a lot of people. Every emotion felt can also be released by simply writing it down on paper. It’s another way to acknowledge as well as validate the way you feel. I started out writing poetry, however just taking the time to write about what's going on in my life, how I feel about it, or just write whatever is on my heart at that time has done wonders for my mental health. It’s a healthy way to release your sentiments so they are not building within you. Journaling has always been a popular method of emotional regulation. It may be hard to stay consistent with journaling especially if you’re new to it, but you build habits with repeated behaviors. Do whatever you need to make this activity fun for you, so you’ll be more motivated to keep doing it. Buy a cute notebook, grab some colorful pens, you can even get fancy with stickers and journal decals to customize it even further. Seeing your growth when you read previous entries is the best feeling ever.
I recommend venting to someone you trust and can receive emotional support from. This is why community is so important, not only in times of crisis, but to share advice when it’s needed and support that will always be useful. Sometimes talking it out with someone else can be as effective if not more than just releasing it privately on paper, but it’s up to you to make the call. You know what will suit your emotional needs. Having someone to confide in is important so you don’t bottle everything up inside. That will have the opposite effect on your emotional regulation.
Allow yourself to start a new beginning and be patient with yourself as you figure out what that looks like to you. Understand that this takes time. Adjustments take time especially ones that are difficult. Use this as a starting point to sort out how you feel. It can be a lot, however I am sending clarity, strength, and love to whoever is reading this.
Sugar’s Affirmation
Repeat this to yourself out loud, however many times needed.
“I intentionally release ______ from my life. I practice discernment when making decisions. I’m stronger when I let go.”
