Romanticize Your Life: Date Night Rituals
In the spirit of Taurus season (April 19th, 2024-May 20th, 2024), let’s discuss dates and rituals done in preparation. Taurus is a pretty independent sign however I’ve noticed they do value community. Friends, family, significant other, etc. whoever they allow to be close to them in their life is someone they trust and appreciate. Dates are a dedicated time agreed upon by all parties involved to spend time, connect, and bond. This aligns with their dependable and dedicated nature. If you’re on a solo date, you’re just bonding with yourself and doing an activity you enjoy or that allows you to get to know yourself better. As a lover girl, personally I love a good date night. Whether it’s with my girls, my boo, or a solo date I’m down.
Everyone has their own personal way of preparing for a date whether it’s mentally, physically, socially, or emotionally. Think of everything you do a week leading up to a date. Now think of what your day looks like on the day of the date. All of these action steps could be considered your ritual or how you practice self care. What we all have in common is the power of customization and uniqueness. Everyone’s routine will look different because it’s not meant to be the same. Anyone can curate their ideal date experience to their own satisfaction. I’m excited to share my go to date night routine that has not only kept me safe, but has allowed me to truly enjoy myself and connect with others on a deeper level. Sharing my personal routine isn’t for you to do the same exact thing, it’s to give you insight on some things maybe you never thought to do, but think you might want to try. Everything I share is to inspire the next individual or provide a new perspective.
Whether you’re in a relationship, going out with your friends, or on a solo date, this routine is for you. If you are dedicated to strengthening your relationships and make plans to spend time with people regularly, this routine is for you. I came up with this routine in high school, I’ve followed it since then and it has yet to fail me.
Pre-Date Prep: Self Care is Key
Before heading out, it’s essential to indulge in some self-care rituals to set the mood and boost confidence. Start by pampering yourself however you normally groom yourself to maintain your appearance. For ladies this is our hair, nail, beauty appointments. For the guys it could look like going to the barber to get a fresh cut, or doing it yourself at home. This is the week to prioritize skincare to avoid break outs. If you can, get a facial or do a facial mask and a steam at home. Change your pillowcases, keep your hair out of your face, and drink lots of water not just to stay hydrated, but to flush your skin of any toxins. If you don’t wax, wait until the day of to shave your legs, underarms, etc. if you do remove your body hair. Before you get dressed or put on any makeup be sure to properly moisturize your face and body. Start with a body oil gel in the shower, follow up with a scented body oil, and then a thick body butter. This is going to keep your skin soft all day and allow your perfume to properly bond to your skin. This is the secret to smelling good all day. Taking the time to care for yourself will not only make you feel good, but when you look good you radiate confidence.
Using Astrology to choose the right activities
The magic in astrology is that it can be used for anything. Consider incorporating activities or choosing venues that align with both you and your date’s astrological signs. A Leo and a Libra are known to appreciate good entertainment and art so a Broadway show or play might be suitable for both those tastes. This can also work for same element pairings or groups too. For example, an Aries and a Sagittarius which are both fire signs might both enjoy an activity that allows them to move around and use their bodies such as a fitness or dance class. Two water signs might enjoy a cozy dinner by the beach or a romantic boat ride. The beauty in complexity is that we all have different placements, so no one is limited to just one idea or sign. Any sign can enjoy these dates or others.
Safety Essentials to carry
While you’re there to have fun and its easy to get carried away doing so, stay focused because safety should alway be a top priority. Observe your surroundings, pay attention, look out for red flags, don’t give out too much personal information about where you work or live, your daily routine, your family, your children, how much money you make, etc., don’t believe everything you hear, take your time, and always sit facing the exit. This is especially important if you’re going on a first date, or a date with someone you’ve never met before in person. You always want to make sure you let a trusted friend or family member know where you’re going beforehand and share any information you have about your date for added security. If you’re a woman, I strongly suggest you consider carrying personal safety tools that are legal such a pepper spray, personal alarm devices, self defense keychains, etc. Make sure you always bring money anywhere you go, but especially on a date. If things go left, you need to be able to get yourself out of that situation fast. Make sure you have a way to get home safely, but if you feel like you’ll be followed, don’t go straight home. Stop in a public area or precinct if you’re near one. We’re all grown here, so if you’re an adult and choose to be intimate with your date, come prepared with your own intimacy protection. This reduces the chances of tampering. Taking these safety precautions before a date could end up saving your life you just never know. People are sick and wicked out in the world, and you never want to be caught lacking. Better safe than sorry!
Astrological compatibility: Navigating Conflicts
Astrology can offer valuable insights into potential conflicts or misunderstandings based on compatibility between signs. Not only this, but highlight internal struggles they may be facing that could affect your ability to foster healthy connection. This is why I say pay attention because these are all things you can observe and pick up on potentially saving yourself a lot of time. Not just on the date while you’re with them, but before hand. Was the planning of the date seamless or were there already disagreements then? One of the biggest red flags is early arguments. If two people are just meeting and romantically interested in each other there is no reason why there should be fighting, name calling, any or disrespect of any kind. People actually do reveal themselves pretty easily, it’s just up to you to listen, catch it, and clock it. Oftentimes the beginning is the end.
By understanding each other’s astrological traits, you can navigate disagreements with compassion and empathy. For example, if there’s tension between two signs, such as Leo’s desire for attention and Taurus’ need for stability, finding a balance between spontaneity and security can lead to a harmonious relationship.
Solo dates: Self-love Empowerment
Life is constant changes so there are times to be in a relationship and to love on someone else then there’s times to pour into yourself and love on yourself. Everyone will experience both at some point. Whenever you find yourself flying solo again, don’t underestimate the power of self-love dates. Treat yourself to flowers, indulge in your favorite activities, and take the time to reflect on your journey of self-discovery. This is the time to try new activities to discover new interests or re-discover old hobbies you once loved. This is the best time to start new traditions with yourself and really thrive. Savor the experience of only having to pay for one ticket, or meal when you go out again. Everything you make, all of your time and energy is all for you and you get the privilege of pouring into yourself endlessly which is a really good feeling. This is the time to hit those goals you’ve been stagnant on and really lock in. Get your money up, not your funny up! I’ve gotten degrees, jobs, made the most money I ever made, and even started my business after break ups in the past. Use this time to become your best self whatever that may look like for you and enjoy the life you live. Be happy doing what you want to do. There are so many things to do and places to see as a solo traveler definitely get out there as much as you can. If you’re in need of specific travel destinations recommended to you, click here, and let me read your chart the Astrocartography way! Remember, you deserve to be treated with the same love and respect you give to others. You have to model how you want others to treat you, and be okay with being alone at times.
The First date rule
For the first date, it’s essential to keep an open mind and enjoy the moment without placing too many expectations. Be on time it’ll make a good first impression. When you’re late it could be taken as a sign you don’t respect people’s time which isn’t the best introduction. Use this time to get to know each other and see if there’s a genuine connection. Don’t feel obligated to be in a relationship with this person just because you went on a date. If a relationship comes from it and that’s what you want, great, but don’t be disappointed if nothing comes from it. Sometimes that happens, it just wasn’t meant to be. An elimination only means the right one has more of an opportunity to reach you. Remember dating is about exploration and discovering what aligns with your values and desires. Always be yourself. You don’t need to act a certain way to be liked because the right person will appreciate the real you. If you’re not enjoying yourself, don’t force it. If you find out you don’t like the person that’s okay. Do what you’re comfortable with. This is your time. Feel free to go at your own pace. Who you decide to invite into your life is a very big decision as it could literally change the entire trajectory of your life. You should be extra selective on who gets the privilege of being apart of your life.